My boyfriend claims he is always broke

Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you in Jesus' name. I am 23 years old and I am having a problem. I do not have children, but I have a boyfriend who is 33 years old.

He says that he wants to settle down with me. But I don't think that I can settle down with him because he likes many women. He told me that he has changed since meeting me. But there are times I cannot reach him because he has turned off his phone, and he is always saying that his phone not working right. Another problem I am having with him is that he is always broke. He never has money. If I say to him "Let's go out and eat on a Friday evening after work", I have to pay for the dinner. He always wants me to give him some money. I love him very much, but I am tired of spending my money on him.

Two weeks ago, we got into a fight because I saw a text from a girl who he took to a motel. He said that the text was a mistake, but I knew he was lying. I introduced this man to my mother and she likes him because she always likes men with high colour, and he is of a light complexion.

I met this man at my friend's birthday party and we started to talk on the telephone, but now I know that I can't marry him because he never has money. He has a job and it's a good job, but I don't know what he does with his money. He does not give me anything, so he does not spend any money on me. He probably spends on his other girlfriends. Whenever we go out on a Friday night, he stays over at my place and I have to get up and make him breakfast. This relationship is not going to continue for much longer because I am tired off him. My mother thinks I am making a mistake. She says I should hold on and give him some more time.

What do you think?

K.T.

Dear K.T.,

This man is going to wreck your life. Apart from making love to you, he has nothing to offer.

You should get rid of him. Your mother likes him because of his complexion, but you should not marry a man because he is of light complexion or what your mother calls high colour. Drop this man now. Do so before Christmas. He is a burden you are carrying, and you should not allow yourself to carry this burden into the new year.

I hope you will take my suggestion and bring an end to this relationship immediately.

Pastor