I have found Mr Right

Dear Pastor,

My husband and I have been married for five years. We try to do everything together.

He works with the government and I work in the private sector. My husband gets home before me, so he cooks most evenings. But he does not eat until I get home, even if I am late in doing so. Most times, I do not get home until after 8 p.m. We sit and eat together and he never allows me to wash the dishes - he does them. I always try my best to be in a position where I am welcoming him to bed. While he is washing the dishes, I go to the bathroom and get ready for him. This man was specially made for me. Before I was married, I used to go on dates. Some of the guys never knew how to deal with a woman. I will not forget going out with an older man and all the conversations that he raised had to deal with sex. So I dropped him as a friend.

My husband was the sixth man I dated and he never talked about sex until I raised the issue with him. When I did, he said "I didn't know you are ready." I said "I have been ready, but you have not asked me." We laughed about it. He asked me if doing it on my birthday would be okay. My birthday was going to be two months away, so I told him if he could wait, I could too. He arranged a trip for us and then he told me to ask for some time off so we could travel together.

We went abroad. The only regret I had was that this man was not the person who took my virginity. But we had a ball. We got married in a private ceremony. We communicate very well. We go for walks together on weekends when I do not have to work. I do all the cooking on Saturdays and Sundays. He loves sports, so he spends most of the day watching sports. We have started to go to church. He likes to go to church early on Sundays, so we have been doing so together.

People think we are the perfect match but he can be very stubborn. But we do not fight. He is always complimenting me and he is always giving me his opinion about what I should wear when we are going out. I have one daughter and she told me one day, "Mommy, I would love my husband to be like Daddy." I told her that she must not be in a hurry to settle down with any man until she meets someone who is like her father. I hope I told her the correct thing.

T.

Dear T.,

Your letter proves to me that there are good gentlemen around. Not every man who a woman meets is eager to take her to bed.

Your husband was not in a hurry to do so when both of you were dating. You married a great man, an intelligent man. I wish both of you the very best in life. I also wish your daughter would get an outstanding man when her time comes.

How many men in this world would be willing to cook, except on Saturdays and Sundays? You are a fortunate woman. May your relationship last for many more years. Take good care of your man. From what you have said about him, he will continue to take very good care of you.

Pastor